Not so with Sam—whom she agreed to make a date with after six weeks of emails and hour-long phone calls. "I thought, 'Oh my gosh, this is a real man, not just an email! Lesson learned: Keep expectations low; it can take a while to find a match.Even with a system like e Harmony, whose detailed matching process saved her from "kissing a lot of frogs," you still have to feel that chemistry.
"My OK Cupid date was a college senior home for break.
I was the one who drunkenly suggested having sex in a public bathroom.
I said, "Definitely not." A few minutes later he dropped something on the floor, and while retrieving it tried to put the toes of my crossed legs in his mouth. I met a guy on Ok Cupid, and we hit it off pretty well.
After we hung out a few times, he came over to my place with a bottle of wine and a movie.
'" says Tonya, who had been married before (and has a 12-year-old daughter).
Meanwhile, Frank, 41, a lifelong bachelor, had been online for a year on different match-up sites.
Sites like Post Secret ( postsecret.com), which publishes people's anonymous confessions in postcard form, might have started the trend as far back as 2005 but the internet is now awash with places for the guilt-ridden to unburden their virtual souls.
Secret Tweet ( secrettweet.com) enables users to post anonymous confessions to Twitter, Second Chance ( secondchance online.blogspot.com) publishes people's regrets anonymously, and True Wife Confessions ( truewifeconfessions.blogspot.com) is a forum for women to post their real-life relationship confessions.
One post reads: "I know this is hypocritical but since you've gained so much weight, I'm just not that attracted to you any more." Dawn Rouse, the founder of True Wife Confessions, admits to writing the first 20 confessions – including less shocking revelations such as "I know where your belt, glasses or wallet are.
I just think it's funny to watch you run around like a crazy person looking for them" and "Sometimes you only have to make me laugh to change my mood. But now she has more than enough posts to keep the site refreshed. Then it dissipates, gives you the impetus to say it to your partner, or confirms that you have some different choices to make in life." Callie, a wife and mother who blogs anonymously about her affair with a married man, agrees.
Then he spent 20 minutes describing how bad one of his former online dates' vagina smelled. It was awful." "I met this sexy guy on Plenty Of Fish and he started asking me what shoe size I was and what color my toenails were painted. When we got to the party I told him I had to use the restroom and I'd meet up with him later.