Sure, they will go out for dinner and do fun activities, but it’s not packaged up in a formal and contrived manner. It’s more organic and instead of defining the relationship in order to know how to act, they let the relationship unfold and the label of boyfriend/girlfriend just naturally develops in the process. European men are comfortable with women, which leads to respect for women.Perhaps this has to do with their upbringing, where it’s very normal for boys and girls to play and intermingle together.
“YESSSSS, WOOHOOOO, USA, USA.” Contrast this with the contestants of the Dutch version of this programme, who usually respond with a muted, “nou, wat leuk, ik ben door.” Which brings me to the subject of today’s post, the differences between Dutch and American men.
The Shallow Man recently wrote about the differences between Dutch and American girls.
The Shallow Man recently watched an episode of Masterchef USA.
When some of the contestants were told that they were going further in the show, they shouted.
Italian men are worse than women and the whole place winds up smelling like their cologne." "I am sorry, but guys at home in France are so annoyingly into themselves. OK, good to know." "American women are not 'easier' than other women, but I would say they are way more comfortable flirting and being sexual than a lot of women in Europe.
American men seem much more interested in getting to know you. I think there's a freshness about sex in America that makes it more fun to be with an American woman." "The best thing about dating my American girlfriend is her true New York spirit: the idea that she can do anything, anytime, and doesn’t have to apologize for putting herself first.
Now, when I discuss the differences between European and American, I’m referring to a mindset. American men on the other hand, tend to be goal oriented, with the aim of getting laid.
You can very well be born in America but have a more “European” mindset and vice versa. Perhaps this ‘score mentality’ is for bragging rights, perhaps it’s for validation so they can feel wanted and desired, or perhaps it’s a pure ego play.
By contrast, my friend and I recently met two American women for drinks and within the first ten minutes one pulled out her phone and started texting.
That in itself was disrespectful, of course, but hear what she answered when her friend asked who she was texting: “That guy from last night.” Utterly shameless! You can treat an American woman well, but still she will complain.
Virtually all of the feedback received was about the differences in dating Dutch and American men, which I’ll also feature in today’s post.