Once your relationship becomes somewhat serious, try to get to know her son gradually, without attempting to rush or force the relationship or stepping in as a parental figure.
Having dated a divorced guy, I can speak from experience of what to do and the mistakes to avoid if you do decide to go down this path with a divorced guy, especially if they have kids.DATING MISTAKE 1: I ignored the signs of his opinion on kids.Children (especially young children) quickly can become attached to someone new and, consequently, may be confused or hurt if the relationship ends.If your date wants you to meet her son right away, suggest that she introduce you as a friend.You may consider bringing the child a small gift to show your good will and sincere interest in him, such as baseball cards for a collector or new crayons for an aspiring artist.
Don’t bring anything extravagant, which he may perceive as an effort to buy his affection.
Divorcing clients are often lonely and stressed out, and they may be longing to meet someone new, feel desirable again, and just have fun.
So, many clients decide that just one date can’t hurt.
Some fathers feel unsure about how to spend blocks of time with their children without a woman present; some mothers are anxious to quickly introduce a “better role model” to their children and have the family that wasn’t possible with the children’s father.
Neither situation serves the child’s need for time to adjust to family changes.
TIP 1: Make sure you are both aligned to what you want.