Therefore, when you are judging her, YOU are making her into someone she is not.
If you’re finding it difficult to get past the jealousy, you’re not alone.The Frisky recently published a piece about a boyfriend who made his girlfriend feel ashamed of her sexual history.Dating someone who’s had lots of sex could mean they’re better at sex.Consider yourself lucky that someone else got the brunt of their awkward phase. But make sure you’re not punishing someone for that happened before you met and can’t be undone. If everything else about them works for you, that’s what matters.If they’re telling you about it, it’s probably because they care enough about you to be upfront. They’re being honest, which gives you license to be honest about your feelings about it.
Just try to be aware of when you’re sharing your feelings and when you’re irrationally blaming your partner for hurting you with their past behavior.The biggest thing that men judge women on is how many men they have slept with. Once you make it clear to yourself, you can stop judging her and start seeing her for the person she is today. I don’t know many people, including myself, who are not judgmental once in a while.I’ve heard many guys talk about how they hate their woman’s sexual past, and how much it disgusts them. However, it doesn’t really serve a positive purpose for us, and when the judgement enters our heads it should be just as quickly released.Ultimately, that is what the dating process is for – to decide, based on what you have learned, whether or not to marry that person.As people of the Christian faith – a faith that stresses hope for our future, despite the failings of our past – we oftentimes deliberately ignore a person’s past when deciding on a mate.But the gospel offers real grace for the heart reeling that can happen from finding out about a boyfriend’s or girlfriend’s sexual past.